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Well, today I will brush up my past blog about "the reason why conflicts are chained and how to deal with it".

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Now is the main topic.

There are people who get angry immediately at what the other person says and talk back.

Well, I'm human, and I know you're angry.

But when I got angry and said back, is there any progress?

Say what you want to say and beat the other person, it may feel good at that time, but what is left after getting angry for a while?

A sense of guilt that you said too much.

The other party may be buying a grudge because of the frustration of being well defeated.

(Do you know how conflicts are chained? In terms of national units, it's a war, and in terms of factions, it's a factional conflict, and if it's between neighbors, well, it's a conflict between neighbors ... I wonder what it is. Although the scale is different, small sparks will occur due to the struggle for wealth and mounts, and it will become bigger and irreparable. Even though there are many victims, it will continue until the other party surrenders. It's very sad, but this is the characteristic of people. But even if you think that this has settled down once, the small fire species is actually smoldering, and in the end, if the times change or the generation changes, it may rekindle again. And I will definitely repeat it with the feeling that the conflict will start again. Then, about this mechanism, if you look at the scale smaller, it is actually very simple and easy to understand. That is to say, in the end, the country, faction, and neighbors are all a collection of people. In other words, at the bottom, there is always a conflict between people, and it just looks like a conflict between countries because it simply uses the noun state as an expression. Moreover, roughly speaking, the conflict between people begins first. From there, it will continue until one of them wins. Then the other party will give up once, but in the end, in the back of my heart, I feel like "I was defeated" and "I'm frustrated." If that happens, this time, "I'll get back at you again someday!" It's easier to create such a feeling. You can already imagine the rest. If you do it, it will be an exchange to fight back. Even though it's a characteristic of a person, it's empty.)

In other words, even if you argue or quarrel, there is no progress at all, and only negative emotions will remain.

Is there any meaning at this time?

I think it's just self-satisfaction that "I want to take the opponent's cloak".

If you are full of blood, strong will to lose, and certainly try to be better than others, it may be a necessary material.

(It's true that it's a weapon to say that you're full of blood and strong to lose, but if you do too much, you'll get revenge. So you have to be careful not to overdo it, but to that extent and how much will you do it to get revenge on yourself? As for this, this is the best way to do it and learn, so I think it's better to experience various things even if you see some pain. However, if the damage is too large, it will take time to recover or you may not be able to recover in the first place, so we recommend that you start with a light one at the beginning.)

But I'm basically a pacifist and I don't want to take inefficient actions, so I'm not suited to return emotionally.

I don't think everyone is applicable, but only time is always moving forward.

If you are free and have no free time, I won't stop it in particular, but as long as you are moving forward, I think you should proceed with high production.

(There is a saying that if you lose, you win. It's exactly like this. If you want to get the place quickly, you can say that this is the best way. However, some people come on the map, which is good that we dare to go down to settle it. If this happens, it will escalate more and more, so in such a case, let a third party intervene as soon as possible. There is no option to face it, but this will sacrifice your time where you win, and first of all, as I told you before, it may become a fire that will create new hatred and conflicts. So, I think the best way to do it when it's complicated is to have a third party.)

However, there are times when it's hard to keep moving forward, so it's necessary to take a break once in a while.

Simply, you just need to listen to the story with a calm attitude.

If you get angry right away, I think it's better to realize it as soon as possible that it's only your loss.

(There is a way to control the anger that occurs suddenly. That's the method of anger management. If you google it for details, you will find a lot of ways to do it, but the point is to say that you should endure it for the first 5 seconds. There are several other techniques, but in any case, it is important to be aware of the disadvantages of getting angry first. Don't forget to keep it in your heart, so if anyone says that you are in trouble because it's easy to get blood on your head, please try it once. If you have any questions about this matter, please feel free to send me a message. I will explain it to you until you understand it carefully. My official LINE ID and QR code are listed at the bottom of this blog, so please register as a friend and we look forward to hearing from you.)

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