The problem lies in thinking, "Problems can be solved.

"Around oneself, there are problems that can be solved and those that cannot.

Because we have been educated to believe that there is always an answer to a problem, we tend to think that there is always a solution.

There are four main categories of unsolvable problems:

Death.
Aging.
Falling ill when it's time to fall ill.
Things not going as one wishes.
   For instance, .there are various situations such as not having enough money when needed, not being able to be with someone you love, or having to be with someone you dislike.

furthermore, there are things that cannot be solved by "current me."
Some problems won't be solved until time passes.
Sometimes, all you can do is leave it to time.

If it's something that can be solved, then it's best to solve it promptly.
If it's something that cannot be solved, no matter how much you think about it, no matter how much you worry, no matter how much you research, if it doesn't work out, let it go.
Learn the skill of not trying to solve it.

You are not a god who can solve everything.
By letting those things consume your energy, you may neglect what you should truly be doing.
If you can focus on what you should truly be doing, you will naturally gain strength and sometimes reach a resolution.

To organize problems, it's a good idea to write them down on paper.
While it's good to write things down to resolve them, within those writings, there are things that you should leave alone and things that you have no choice but to leave alone.

Accumulating unsolvable problems leads to trouble.
Facing your feelings by writing them down, looking at your emotions, and meditating are ways to go about it.

Firstly, the basic principle of meditation is to "acknowledge your emotions as they are.
"If you're happy, just say, "Oh, I'm happy.
"If you're sad, just say, "Oh, I'm sad.
"If you're lonely, just say, "Oh, I'm lonely.
"It's about acknowledging your emotions.

So, it's not about what's good or bad.
It's not about saying, "I shouldn't be happy here," or "I shouldn't feel lonely about this," or "I must somehow overcome this sadness."
That's not meditation.
It's about saying, "Wow, I'm happy," "I'm lonely," "I'm sad," "I'm frustrated," and let ting it out.
It's not about venting to others; it's about acknowledging within yourself.
People try hard to deny the emotions welling up inside them.
Even though they're actually jealous or frustrated, they say things like,
"No, I'm not angry at all," or "No, I'm not bothered by that at all," when in fact their insides are boiling.
Or conversely, when they're really happy but it's not socially acceptable, they suppress it by saying, "Oh, thank you," instead of expressing their true feelings.

However, in reality, they're being controlled by the emotions they're trying to suppress.

For example, when you feel angry at someone:
"Just infuriating! It's so infuriating! I'm really furious!" But even if you keep saying, "I'm furious!" it won't change anything, and yet you keep suppressing your anger.
"It's no good... I shouldn't think about this kind of thing," "I'll get irritated and won't be able to focus on my work.
"Even if you try to focus on work, after a while, the anger will well up again, and you'll spend the whole day being controlled by it.
So, it's better to create a time to express your feelings with a bang, saying, "I'm really pissed off," and let it out.

When emotions are acknowledged, they eventually subside.
It's best to erupt them as soon as possible and calm them down.
Speed ​​up that process.
If you let it smolder like a volcano with intermittent eruptions, the underground activity will continue for a long time.
Once it explodes, the eruption stops, doesn't it?
So, it's best to spit it out with a loud noise as soon as possible.
Of course, rather than venting to others, it's better to have your own way of dealing with it.
That's what meditation is about.

I had an environment of a temple, so I used to go in front of the Buddha and say, "This happened to me!" and "Please listen to me!" and I would pour everything out.

Buddha and other deities are noble beings who will listen to you without saying a word for an hour or even two hours.
Because such a grateful presence was nearby, I was saved.

By honestly acknowledging your emotions, you can see the emotions behind the actions you are taking.
I become fascinated by the actions I'm taking.
This is the second stage of meditation.

Feelings that are hidden inside you
Even though they're really "A," you pretend they're not "A."
By pretending they're not "A," you start to believe that the pretending is the truth.

IIf you don't acknowledge that, your pride will continue to grow.
You'll start to create a self that says, "No, I'm not like that."
Now, to practice meditation, where you honestly acknowledge your emotions.

Negative emotions and positive emotions will both arise in your daily life.
Write them down on one page of your notebook per day.
Negative emotions on the left page, positive emotions on the right page.
During your morning commute, if you get stuck in traffic and think, "Hurry up, you idiot," write it on the left page.

When you go for lunch and the shop assistant seems rude, not even saying "Welcome," write on the left page, "This woman! No greetings!"

While watching TV drama and getting emotional after a long time, write on the right page, "There is such kindness in the world," "I want to be like that person."

Reflecting on yourself, feeling grateful, feeling happy,
Write these on the right page.

Not about good or bad,
Just keep recording.

After ten days, twenty days, a month...
When you look back, you'll be amazed.
Only the left page is filled.
The left page is filled three times, four times, or even five times more than the right page.
Sometimes, it's filled ten times more than the right page.
You realize that your antenna is tuned to "negative emotions" and "negative feelings."
You realize, "So this is who I am."
You confront yourself with this.
This is meditation.
What will happen next if you continue this?

Isn't it unpleasant when the notebook isn't filled?
Then you'll start to fill the empty pages.
You've been filling only the left page, so now you'll start looking for things to write on the right page.

You start to forcibly raise an antenna like a snail.
"Isn't there anything to write on the right page?!"
And you start searching.
Even for trivial things, you'll start to think, "Oh, I should write this!"

And you'll start looking for positive emotions, even if it's forced.
As the right page fills up, the left page decreases.

You begin to live your life thinking about the right page!